If you or your significant other’s libido isn’t what it used to be, there are two guaranteed ways to put the zing back into your love life: From the inside with the right foods and nutrients, and from the outside with exploration and positive reinforcement.
Below, are 9 foods that can provide the nutritional spark to your lack luster sexual appetite and increase your libido.
Now, celery may not be the food of choice that you dream of when thinking sex, but it is a great source food for sexual stimulation. Celery contains androsterone, an odorless hormone released through male perspiration and turns women on.
Libido dietary tip: Celery is best eaten raw. Wash well and munch away just before you get down and dirty.
- Raw oysters
This is one of the best known aphrodisiacs. Oysters are rich in zinc and help increase sperm and testosterone production. Oysters also contain dopamine, a hormone that helps to build up libido. Try feeding your partner an oyster during your foreplay routine and have her/him feed you.
Libido dietary tip: Scrub the shells well to get any dirt or bacteria off. Open and place them on a bed of crushed ice, squeeze some fresh lemon onto them if you like, and then start sucking away.
Bananas contain the bromelain enzyme, that increases libido and reverses impotence in men. Also, they are potent sources of potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin, which increase the body’s overall energy levels.
The Aztecs referred to the avocado tree ahuacatl as a “testicle tree.” Avocados contain high levels of folic acid, which helps metabolize proteins, thus giving you more energy. They contain vitamin B6 (a nutrient that increases male hormone production) and potassium (which helps regulate a woman’s thyroid gland), two elements that help increase libido in both men and women.
Almonds are a great source of essential fatty acids. These provide the raw material for a man’s healthy production of hormones. Additionally, the smell of almonds arouses passion in females. You can add to the sexual ambiance by lighting some almond-scented candles to build up her mood.
Libido dietary tip: Eat almonds raw (with no added salt or sweetness). Alternately, crush some fresh almonds and sprinkle them on your salad to get the energy you need.
Eggs are rich in vitamins B6 and B5. These help balance hormone levels and fight stress, two things that are crucial to a healthy libido. Eggs are also a symbol of fertility and rebirth. Eating raw chicken eggs just prior to sex is said to heighten libido and maximize energy levels. But all bird and fish eggs contain B6 and B5. Libido dietary tip: Partake in some hard-boiled eggs beforehand.
Figs are excellent sources of amino acids that increase libido. They can also improve sexual stamina.
Libido dietary tip: Feed her some fresh figs and let the juices run all wild while you’re both getting revved up.
While you don’t want to be stinking of garlic during a passionate lip lock, garlic contains allicin, an ingredient that increases blood flow to the sexual organs.
Libido dietary tip: If the odor just won’t work for you — or you can’t stand garlic — go for garlic capsules instead.
Chocolate contains theobromine — an alkaloid — which is very similar to caffeine. It also contains phenylethylamine, a chemical that produces the feeling of “being in love.” So, when your woman talks about how good chocolate makes her feel, there is some science behind it. In addition, dark chocolate has a massive amount of anti-oxidants, which are great for the body in general, as they help maintain the immune system.
Libido dietary tip: Feed each other with chocolates during foreplay or lick chocolate sauce off each others’ bodies.
Now that your feeling all revved up to have some hot action in bed, would your partner rather watch television or read? Well, then it’s high time you did something to solve that problem.
Sexual incompatibility among partners can be attributed to many events like childbirth, stress, or loss of a loved one. Other sexual difficulties, like problems attaining orgasm, a waning sex drive, or erectile dysfunction can also have one partner far from looking forward to lovemaking.
But, all the above problems can be solved with the help of your doctor and/or sex therapist. And if all the above reasons do not explain your case, then you should assess how your relationship has evolved, and do something to regenerate your partner’s passion.
Simple actions like holding hands, playful pats and lusty lip-locks can have both of you craving a deeper sexual connection in no time.
Here are the seven more ways to get things going in the bedroom, and subtly sell your partner on the idea of more sex:
- Entice your partner with orgasm exploration. Read up on the many types of peaking men and women can have, and let your lover know that you want to explore how both of you can reach new climactic heights.
- Incorporate fantasy throughout the day. Plant seeds in your partner’s head of things you know spark interest. Share a hot thought you had involving an erotic moment you once shared. Describe body parts you miss touching and how you’re consumed with longing. Rent a movie with a sexy or romantic storyline. Pursue anything that will put your lover in a sensual state of mind.
- Stay connected when you do have sex. Don’t make sex about physical gratification alone. Truly worship your lover and hail the lovemaking as a celebratory experience? One you can’t get enough of.
- Keep things novel and spicy in and out of the bedroom. In exploring what turns both of you on when it comes to sex, you can broaden your sexual repertoire. You want to make your lover feel like you’re embarking on an adventure, not just going for a simple roll in the hay.
- Look your best. While we can’t look like our Supermodel selves 24/7, putting effort into your appearance helps you put out more persuasions. You’ll be harder to resist.
- Engage in verbal foreplay. While men often need sex to feel loved, women often need to feel loved before they engage in sex. The more you engage in all types of erotic talk affectionate, romantic, sexy – the more you’ll pique your lover’s interest.
- Consider how you size up sexual satisfaction. Sex doesn’t always have to end in intercourse. So rethink your pleasure and the different ways you can realize sexual satisfaction that doesn’t necessarily require going “all the way.”
Lastly, don’t forget that honesty is the best policy. Talking openly to each other about what sex means to you without being demanding or putting expectations on each other is often necessary.
Some of the tips in this article were taken from Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots by Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, a sex educator, relationship expert, author, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc.